Spa novel - a tale and reality. How to get rid of love?

Spa novels give us the opportunity to experience the whole gamut of emotions. But few people know how to properly and safely through the end of this novel
Each of us, going on holiday, hopes to meet on vacation ITS, to experience the passion and jealousy, longing and desperation. And that spa novels give us the opportunity to experience the whole gamut of emotions. But few of us know how to correctly and safely through the end of this novel, although we realize initially that someday, as if to be exact - two weeks later he graduated, and most that come on there is a real, common-usual life.

How to find the balance after a madman novel on holiday? How not to plunge into a depression?

One recipe at all, unfortunately, no. Each of us will experience this separation is stronger than the others, because it is your love was real, the feelings were the most sincere and the pain of separation is the most unbearable. And in that moment, when it wants to weep openly in the workplace, to drop everything and go to their Arab sheik for good, is still put into practice a few tips.

First, you and you understand that for him, your old gentleman, the time spent with you was a beautiful fairy tale, the repetition of which in everyday life is impossible and even undesirable. Too high passions, too difficult in this tale male role. Therefore, you should not be very upset about the separation and the absence of letters, because they reasoned sensibly, you will realize that your belief that you love him any, are not entirely justified. After all, you need not "any", namely that: "calm, confident, courteous ..." etc. And it is this, perhaps, simply did not exist in nature. So he was far away from everyday life, work problems.

Caution - men!

I must say that apart from the sudden end of a holiday romance there is another negative point, which you fortunately escaped. Not always and not all men perceive harmless flirting women on vacation quite adequately. Very often it happens that the slightest signs of attention perceived as the obligation of proximity. In such cases, it can reach the use of force. And instead brought a fairy tale - one more psychotrauma. Only a competent and rational behavior by women, where verified, perhaps intuitively, every gesture, every glance, every word, can help avoid such troubles and to make sure that everything was done only by voluntary agreement. You have succeeded brilliantly? This too can be considered as a positive factor.

Do not forget that women have lots of ways to change themselves, which significantly affects its health. Men have a few choices there, well, would not they dye his hair red in color and patterns tweeze eyebrows! And here we are - we can. So - change. Anything from hair color to work. A sort of a new stage in life, with a clean slate, but with the summer energy charge.

Crying is recommended!

But! Do not run away from thoughts about his character, from the tears of suffering. Every psychologist will tell you that healthy depressed at parting is the norm. This depression is not a disease but an original work. And this suffering can not be circumvented. Quickly get rid of the pain can be only one way: to live it in its entirety as soon as possible and to clear my head. Attempts to escape from it, only extended heavy feeling in the months and years. Therefore - weep, weep much. Once you are terribly bored.

Quite recently, surf the World Wide Web, I stumbled on some soulful romance, began to read not at first, but eventually became involved, even ordered a book through the online store. Imagine my surprise that the author, an ordinary girl who ran away from the depression that befell her as a result of the finished resort novel! This same idea, I thought, but I resort novels so far, alas, is not expected.

Share your sorrow!

But if you have it planned or already been and you're in grief and tears - you then the green light. Beret, open a blog in LJ or other resources, and describe your novel with taste, with gusto, in all detail. Live through again, as you saw, as he looked at you as you are ... Not what you all pour out of themselves, maybe even porydaete front of the monitor from the surging of memories, both still and become the most widely read author, practically - Star!

Another smart option to cope with love, suddenly nagryanuvshey, an online forum. Oh, it's generally a very good thing, I tell you. There are two to three actively attending antenatal sites, leads there to the name of the theme "love with dying, there podrobnenko describe his love and, most importantly, do not forget to remember something that is not very good, for example, if during a perfect novel, your chosen one once sniffed in your handkerchief, or, for example, once drunk to pig squeal, asked you to "stimulate" and ... fell asleep. But write it in the context of the series: "He is so cute .. so cute ... the handkerchief, which he blew his nose, I keep up to date ..".

Everything's done! Women are largely in solidarity with each other, this time, and secondly, the speed of speech addressed to his chosen one showing, what he did ... and radish did not appreciate you, you will not hear anywhere else. Having read a few pages of these reviews very soon and you'll see that he is, your hero - a radish.

Smile, and go on time!

If you only have to go on holiday, and you suspect that you must tighten some mad love affair with local natives, remember one important and interesting thing: there is a psychological trick: force yourself to smile and my heart just warmer. Same thing with declarations of love: if you are five times say "love", then on the sixth yourself to believe it. Therefore met, do not translate to other relationships rails. No need to convince itself in eternal love to his new friend, and then believe it themselves, and they themselves will suffer.

And yet - get out in time. As soon feel that your relationship becomes too close Well, different personal details become the property of each other - go to the sea, the mountains, to the disco, quadrille new boyfriend, but go away. You have come to rest, and not a load problem, and now applies to everything easier.

Area love.

And finally just need to know what's going on with you actually. From the standpoint of science has long proven that people love in the brain in the zone of "love" is to develop a substance known as dopamine, makes people strongly desire something or expect compensation for anything. Previously dopamine was studied on the example of gamblers, and then studies have shown that the gain resulted in a sudden outburst of this substance. In the case of love it turned out that the sharp selection of dopamine makes us feel for a man of passion, desire, lust, sometimes going beyond the control of reason. In its quest to achieve reciprocity we go ready to go at all.

Interestingly, "Love Zone" was placed in our brain the same place where there are the main centers that regulate a person's need for food and water. So love, in fact, can be compared to itself that on is a natural requirement.

In the case of separation from their beloved or break with it the reaction of the brain, tends to be extremely active. Dopamine creates the desire to be near her beloved, and his (favorite) the actual absence creates a tragic contradiction of desires and needs. Scientists have proved that and so long known: love does not depend on reason and deal with it is useless. A relative comfort for all emerging from the gap with a favorite may be the fact that, in the opinion of people of high intelligence, at least unrequited love can not be eternal. Reaction zone "love" to throw you the object is gradually becoming less violent, and then, as a rule, and did stop. And your brain gets the freedom to search for new love.

So weep as your heart's need, but do not forget one thing: this love, like a runny nose: If you treat him, he held for seven days, and if not treated, for the week.

Other than you being unrealistic and attractive!